WHAT IS FEAR?Written by Sylvia Marina, Personal Development Mentor.
Fear is a chain reaction in the brain that starts with a stressful stimulus and ends with the release of chemicals that causes your heart to race, fast breathing and energized muscles, also known as the fight-or-flight response. The stimulus could be the branch of a tree scraping a window on a stormy night, the sudden thud of a door against the door frame. The incitement may be a shadow that looked like a mouse – perhaps it was a mouse, a spider, an auditorium full of people waiting for you to speak.
If we didn’t have the capacity to be afraid we wouldn't survive for long. We would be walking into oncoming traffic, ignoring the red traffic light, being careless and reckless.
In humans and in all animals, the purpose of fear is to promote survival. In the course of human evolution, the people who feared the right things survived to pass on their genes. In passing on their genes, the trait of fear and the response to it were selected as beneficial to the race.
Most of us are no longer running for our lives in the wild, but fear is far from an outdated instinct.
We may not be on continuous alert from wild animals stealth-ing for a meal, but many make the decision not to take a shortcut down a deserted alley, a rational fear that promotes survival. Only the stimuli has changed - our fear serves to protect us.
SOCIAL ANXIETY keeps people prisoner in their own story expectation or idea, unable to step out, they fear rejection. The fear that served to protect you also has the power to hold you in trepidation.
Fear can have such a stronghold, it affects many from asking questions, acquiring an education, seeking a career, finding their life path or discovering what possible options may be open to them. Fear holds people stuck.
Nervousness, fearfulness, apprehension and over concern, holds you in a negative place.
Fear stops some people from conceiving children, they fear what the future of this world will be.
Fear holds people back from fulfilling their most natural instincts.
If you are afraid of asking questions, stepping out, or giving life a go for fear of making a fool of yourself, it’s time to change paradigms. We can help you gently step forward in life.
If you feel watched over, evaluated or criticized by others, you are not free to explore you many life options. Instead you intelligences lay dormant and you feel trapped.
It’s freedom that you seek. The freedom to speak, to ask questions, to live your life the way you dream that it can be. Let us help you, find your courage.
DO YOU HAVE A DREAM? written by Sylvia Marina Do you have a dream? A dream of something you yearn to do, achieve, or be?
What holds you back? It's hard, sometimes, to believe in your ability to be or do everything you dream about.
Even the most determined person has their challenging moments; it's the people who get through those moments and pull strength from them to fuel their goals that enjoy the greatest success.
Self doubt is not new. It's something all people face.
The concerning part about self doubt is when it is more than a passing phase or a brief refocus point. When self doubt is running your life, you are not in charge.
Self doubt incapacitates your life, it holds you back from career choices, relationships, dream fulfilment. Consider those times when you are the life of the party but your inner doubt self knows it’s a pretend, you are left once again in a dark desolate place.
Where to find help? The trick, of course, is to turn to the most appropriate place for help at the time, a trusted friend who can re-ignite belief in your-self.
A true friend is someone you can totally trust, who no-matter-what will never repeat your story, will never throw it in your face, will through all the ups and downs of life be your confidante.These people are rare and precious.
Here is an exercise. If you are having trouble believing in your ability to achieve your dream, take yourself out of the equation by focusing instead on the goal itself. How important is it to you? How much do you want to see this happen? Often the passion of your idea will fire you to take action. It amazes me how easily we forget about our doubts and fears when we're caught up in activity.
The key to overcoming self doubt lies in you. When you learn the art of self mastery, self doubt ceases to control your life.
When self doubt is controlling your life, the power of thought, is too great to be over-estimated, just as the spoken word has the power to discourage and encourage. In the past, words have become the prime weapon in swaying your ideas and imprinting your life with both positive and negative emotions.
If the imprint of negative words from an authoritative voice of the past or present is controlling your life today, you need help. You need a life coach, a mentor, a system that will positively affirm that whatever you are capable of dreaming you can achieve.
NO LIMITS, NO BOUNDARIES– written by Sylvia Marina
Since my previous article when I mentioned Madelliene’s transcendence many people have contacted me looking for meaningful answers to life altering questions like… how can I be more in tune with my soul.
How can I tap in to my own intuition?
How can I learn to change situations around me?
How can I harness the powers within me?
Clearly people want to reconnect with their natural abilities, their multiple intelligences.
There are no limits or boundaries to where your soul can lead you in this lifetime. However you do need a total, no doubt, connection to your wisdom self.
Powerfully as you connect to the centre of Your Being, your soul resonates, shines, and most of all...illuminates, you begin to understand yourself and all that you are meant to be.
As this new awareness opens within, you stop questioning the journey and begin noticing the meaning of your life lessons.
I have been working in the area of personal and professional development for almost thirty years and until recent very few people were interested in tapping into their true intuition, and deeper into the inner soul wisdom, they thought it was an energy available only to ‘the talented few’.
People did not understand it to be their ‘genius’ power!
Individuals from all walks of life are now sensing a shift deep within themselves – they are ready to use their wisdom consciousness, intuitive spiritual energy to remove psychological blocks, to heal their self and begin using their genius power to better their relationships, their career and live a fulfilling life of harmony.
People who live fulfilling lives, who develop all of their intelligences, who answer by responding to and participating in the journey of their soul, who know their inner truth and live it are preparing their self for their every transcendence – not just the final transcendence from this physical life.
Transcendence: to go beyond a limit or range, e.g. of thought or belief. to exist above and apart from the material world.
Discovering and being who you are and who you can become (without pretence) means you can then use your inner gifts to benefit the entire world around you.
David & I have recently returned from my country of birth, New Zealand. This is the place where I spent my childhood and as I travelled closer to Aotearoa my mouth-watering juices flow as I recall the delicious flavours in our foods from the mineral rich volcanic soil influence.
Soon we were breathing the air of the natural forest.
As the air went into my lungs I felt a refreshing happening in all of my cells and the memories of life with my foster brother, tree climbing, fishing in the stream, checking bird nests between doing our jobs of caring for the animals, chopping and carting wood and helping dad in the garden with the expectation of a harvest. So many good memories that influenced who we became.
New Zealand is in it’s autumn season and the further south we travelled the more splendid the colors of change.
Memories too of misunderstandings and realities of life, me a native kid being brought up in a culture foreign to my genetic memory and internal knowing. This childhood set the stage for life choices and the now privilege of being true to who I am. With this experience I help others through their times of change.
One of the life remembrances’ of change was the passing of my long time friend Madelliene Roche-Horsfield who many of our Business Swap readers plus participants of our Mastery programs knew.
I have been with Madelliene in her journey of highlights and tragedies and even though we live miles apart we were extremely close especially during the past fifteen months of her life. We had a connection that transcended the physical realm. No greater honor of a true friendship is when your friend waits for you to travel 3350 miles to be with you in the transition from this life. I was with her as she departed this life, 58 years young.
Madelliene’s funeral was large, her New Zealand family, friends and business associates, friends and family from Australia and our dear friend Linda Wichman grabbed a flight from the Cook Islands to farewell our valued friend and to celebrate and acknowledge the unforgettable spirited and dynamic women that she was.
In her eulogy I closed with the words from the PROPHET – Love knows not it’s depth until the hour of separation!
Following the sudden death of her husband Andy some years ago, Madelliene attended the Self Mastery program – it was this process that helped her come to terms with the past, make changes for the future and have grace in dealing with her illness.
Those at her funeral will have noticed the Sunflowers. It was during the Self Mastery process that she learnt the Sunflower principle – this principle greatly influenced her life and life process.
My life has been deeply enriched from the privilege of sharing the journey of this artistic, often misunderstood speaker of her truth, but dearly loved and respected woman on our time.
In writing my note to you today, let me give you a little insight of the Self Mastery process that Madelliene embraced.
The Purpose of the Self Mastery process is to realize harmony and freedom within your-self. The process provides a gentle step-by-step approach to erase self destructive and disruptive recycling patterns to achieve peace and new meaning in your life.
You learn how to erase memories which in the past have been replaying as problems making relationships, career choices, your purpose path and quality of life, difficult.
Difficulties and Misunderstandings arise from thoughts that are contaminated by painful memories of the past. These emotions that are connected to memories that affect us now, manifest imbalance and disease.
Fear and Stress in your life is caused by a memory – the emotions connected to these memories affect your choices and your relationships.
You learn to release unnecessary memories replaying from the past so that you can live your life from inspiration
Bring harmony, purpose and new meaning to your life
The step-by-step process gives you the skill to erase the memories that affect your health, contribute to your life choice limitations, be rid of that which gives energy to habit and compulsive behaviour patterns and in return for these life changes gain the ability to heal your life and life relationships.
HELPING PEOPLE THROUGH TIMES OF CHANGE. The contents of this article may be copied, reproduced or freely distributed without the consent of the author provided the author's name, copyright notice and contact information are included.
NOTHING WAS EVER THE SAME AGAIN -Written by Sylvia Marina
Sometimes we are so consumed in our daily business that we forget to take a look at a larger picture of who we are and where we are headed in life.
We go through the actions of children and chores of business and bounty and it takes an extra-ordinary event such as a forced change of career, a life threatening illness, the death of a loved one to focus our attention on the meaning in our lives.
Why is it that some people wait to be faced with a diagnosis or tragedy, to review what they have done, what they might have done and wonder what it all means.
Through adversity we learn what we truly value, what our life is for and we become clear on what we truly value.
Too many put aside what –matters-most while they become successful in business.
What if the day came when you had worked long hours for... the dream home, the cruise, the long holiday and now there was no-one to share it with!
Intimacy and conversation, gone!
Interests in common, gone!
The money focused busy mind says, it will never happen, dear friend I am writing this today because it does happen, it just happened to another of my clients. All that they once valued is now empty.
Nothing will ever be the same again.
The partnership bed is empty, the meal time conversations silenced and in it’s place tears at the lawyers office.
What can we do? Improve your communicating skills.
Daily, have open communication, the shared dreams, the understanding and peppering your life with realistic dreams, to be resourceful while remembering to pace your life for daily play, fun, meal- time good-things-that-happened-today type conversations, time for music, prayer and/or meditation, time for family walks and creating togetherness time.
From my experience, keep this thought in your mind…I am a conference speaker and master trainer; in preparing an effective speech always begin with the end in mind. Always keep focus on the complete picture and build your presentation around the final message. Why am I telling you this, it is the same in life...always keep the end in mind.
Take time today to make a list of what matters most to you. If it takes another year or five to achieve your dream home … through nurturing your relationships (you must take time every day to do that) and caring for your own soul too, rather than an empty house that echo’s with regret, disappointments, heartache and tears, you will have a home with those who you love and precious souls who respect and love you too.
HELPING PEOPLE THROUGH TIMES OF CHANGE.www.sylviamarina.comT: +618 9457 3763 The contents of this article may be copied, reproduced or freely distributed without the consent of the author provided the author's name, copyright notice and contact information are included.
Difficult relationships! ‘WHY AM I THE ONE WHO HAS TO CHANGE?’ written bySYLVIA MARINA
We often work with people who are in the midst of ‘difficult’.
Anguishing, clients lament; “I’m not the problem, my partner has the problems and refuses to look at their self and their behaviour” ...
“ If ‘they’ changed it would solve all our problems!”
Difficult relationships! The critical observer perceives the other to be the problem.
Readers may not like considering this idea...the idea that, everything you experience is a direct result of your own perception. No matter what is being said or done to you, your experience is based on your interpretation of what is occurring.
After the squabbling, the ignore-all silent-repose, the slammed door, the indifference, when all has been said and most has been done remember, the only one you are having a relationship with is your-self. You know that from the conversation that happens between your ears!
Don't misunderstand me, there is the relationship you have with him and her and them ... if however, life is not running smoothly look within rather than pointing an accusing finger at 'the others'.
You are the only one who can make your life right for you. No matter what you may see, hear or who you meet, your experience will always be determined by your interpretation and attitude.
Your experience of life is entirely up to you. This makes the cause of ◦SELF MASTERY even more significant. When you know the art of self-mastery you are empowered to be a positive influence, to make decisions that have lasting positive effect.
People who embrace the principles of ‘self-mastery’ activate an internal knowing that silently and gently aligns them to their own truth connecting them to their inner wisdom and life harmony.
Consider this: There have been many times in your lifetime when you have been forced to recognise your truth; remember as a child and your favourite shoes didn’t fit anymore – you couldn’t walk another mile in those moccasins – you were forced to acknowledge that change was necessary. If your relationship is not fulfilling or rewarding, change is necessary.
As you identify your purpose and align with your wisdom/truth you prepare yourself for your future relationship(s), it is then you begin to recognise the positive law of attraction bringing the good to you.
Most people we work with continue in their present relationship(s), they learn how to manage their responses and change their behavior to positive energy.
Is it time to have better, deeper more fulfilling relationships?
Written by Sylvia Marina
Speaker | Author | Mentor
◦ SELF MASTERY effectiveprograms for changeauthored and directed by Sylvia Marina.
To direct all of our thoughts and efforts toward one particular tasks or idea, at the exclusion of all others is an art.
A proven way to perk up your concentration is to change gear or in other words change your thinking style, switch brainwave patterns. Once learnt you will use this skill over and over again.
Concentration is a valuable intelligence to nurture. It is through concentration that we are able to solve problems, make decisions, complete tasks and ultimately succeed in life and as a species.
To ‘try’ to concentrate demands all of your mental energy, even then your thoughts run in all directions so that while we ‘try’ to concentrate on our task our thoughts move to future events, past conversations and emotional issues.
These mind games are not helpful when our desire is for focus and attentiveness.
What to do…get rid of conflicting emotions, those thoughts that go through your head every time you need to concentrate. Turn of the need to be attached to those thoughts and let them go. It’s a easy as dropping an item on the ground and never picking it up again.
What else can assist your concentration?
When important pieces of information drift across your thought processes and interrupt your concentration, write them down. They are then recorded as a future task. You can attend to them at a more appropriate time.
Take a break, this can be a few seconds or several minutes.
Go to the ‘quiet’ place, have a glass of water, do some stretches.
Learn how to engage both hemispheres of your brain together – Theta Brainwave pattern, we teach this in our Mastery program.
Remember, when the two sides of the brain learn to function as one then our experience of reality is different.
It then becomes a natural course of action to being in the moment.
Concentration and ‘living in the present’ go hand in hand.
In our Mastery program, we train the mind, the more you do it the easier it becomes.
Written by Sylvia Marina
Speaker | Author | Mentor
Stop trying to fit in - you were born to stand out- by Sylvia Marina
People who constantly try to ‘fit in’ lose their identity in a fantasy of limitation and desperate desire to have known approval.
Are you a puppet controlled by strings?
Who is pulling those strings?
Who wants you to fit their mould, their beliefs? Parents, family, community, tradition!
Is it time to leave behind the preoccupation of fitting in just to be accepted?
People crave acceptance, but to be accepted many find they have to ‘fit in’, that can be as difficult as having your feet hobbled. Hobbled - to tie the legs of a horse loosely together with a rope or strap to prevent it from moving away....to put restrictions on somebody or something to slow or prevent progress.
Understand that certain rules and conditions in the workplace and community are for safety reasons – please remember to be responsible... now, back to our topic!
What if, the decision was made on your behalf well before the day of your birth, as to your role in life – to be perfect, to fit in,to serve...
What would it mean to you to become your authentic self!
Not something that someone else wants you to be – to be your own truth.
I spent my childhood as a foster child, my situation/expectation was to fit into the model that others wanted me to be. I couldn’t. Understand I didn’t righteously live to be rebellious but during my childhood I was my own person as often as I possibly could be – yes I stepped out of line/others expectations, and was severely punished...did that make me a better person? No I grew to resent authority but age is a wonderful thing sometimes, mostly I now respect authority.
I was my own self and had my authentic truth and knowing inside of me.
Instinctively from birth I understood the law of nature and have continued to walk my own story and truth.
Consider this, if we were all supposed to be the same, we would all look the same?
Same hair type, same colour, same fingerprints, same height, same sense of humour, same thinking style, same likes and dislikes!
No matter how hard anyone tries to take away your individuality, it will always be there.
Imagine the birds that migrate. They have their truth and knowing within, their driving force is to be intent, to be on purpose with their inner knowing.
You have a choice – you can choose self mastery. The artist Michael Angelo saw the angel in the rock and chipped away to reveal perfection, the world of artists recognised his masterpiece!
For Self Mastery - be awakened to your authentic self then have the courage to use the rightful tools to become that which you know is possible, your own truth.
Words from the Buddha. There are only two mistakes you can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.
In Love & Mastery, Sylvia Marina
MASTERY that state of being where words and actions are guided by awareness and purpose rather than habit and reaction - Sylvia Marina
Written by Sylvia Marina
Speaker | Trainer | Mentor
“In this emotional supermarket of life, may the wheels of your trolley...
be all facing in the same direction!”Sylvia Marina
YOUR ENGAGEMENT WITH YOURSELF - written by Sylvia Marina
Do you ever stop to consider your relationship with your-self.
When you are having a little chat to you, how do you engage?
When you wish you had done things differently how do you behave?
If you consider for a moment how you treat yourself, you may soon realize that you don’t treat your adversary as badly as you do yourself. People are their own worst critic – and they listen to their internal critic like it speaks the truth.
Are you the saboteur in your life?
Do you destroy your own dreams?
We are living in a society where it seems it’s not okay to grow up. Character lines are read as wrinkles and from the common talk, multi media advertising and the many anti aging products, wrinkles are scorned.
Constant anti aging bombardment tells us it is wrong to mature. The anti aging campaigners are being unkind – I want to tell you it is okay to mature.
STOP YOUR INTERNAL PAIN AND SUFFERING
It is time for us to grow up. Is it time for a new contract with your own self – promise to love, honor, humor and cherish yourself! It is time for us to invoke harmony and embrace bliss.
Give that internal part of you that’s been the critic a new perspective. Learn how to engage in yourself in a whole new light. Give yourself permission to take responsibility for your personal happiness and well-being.
LEARN HOW TO THINK AND SPEAK WITH PURPOSE
Considerate communication is the answer.
Being kind to yourself and others through the words you think and the words you speak will bring positive change to your life. Your life then becomes a mirror image of grace and kindness.
People who want to learn how to be rich study people who have done and continue to create wealth.
People who wish to change self limiting behavior patterns seek guidance from people who have gained Mastery in their own life. The key to change is in your choices.
Written by Sylvia Marina
Speaker | Trainer | Mentor
MANY PEOPLE ARE MORE THAN - written by Sylvia Marina
Many people are more than ready to learn how to defy gravity in their lives; not just in order to navigate a crisis or heal from an illness, but as an integral part of everyday life.
Imagine if you had the skills to conduct your life from a state whereby your body is relaxed and your mind clear. You have no negative tension or anxiety. Your heart feels open. You fully appreciate what is, and you get adequate rest and relaxation and take good care of yourself.
In reading the above you possibly have one of two ideas running through your mind!
b)Your heart went to a loved one who you hope this was happening in their life right now. You wish they had the skills to free themselves from negative tension, anxiety, illness and dire situations.
You desire to make life easier for you or them, to be able to release their or your stress, bring understanding to a seemingly hopeless situation and ease emotional or physical pain.
The people attracted to our work recognize that change beckons them to embrace their inner consciousness, not with words alone, but through gaining a deeper understanding of life.
We know that in some situations it is difficult for you to get another to listen or understand that there are considerable ways to care for their-self and their situation; many are so deeply entrenched in their circumstances they cannot imagine there may be ways to re-focus, ways to release the pressure or that there may even be a solution.
Sometimes it is emotionally painful for you when you want to help and you don’t know where to start or you fear rejection.
Understand you can’t make others change, just as you can’t physically make them see, swallow or listen but you can be a conduit on their behalf, by energetically changing your vibrations, thought patterns or attitude you will be helping.
It is often difficult to understand why we may need to open our awareness or change our mind-set to assist another or indeed our self, but there are many instances when this change in energy has helped alter another’s attitude, actions and in some instances their life’s pattern.
Imagine if you had the skills to conduct your life from a state whereby your body is relaxed and your mind clear. You have no fear, no negative tension or anxiety. Your heart feels open. You appreciate all that is, and you come from a place of absolute love where you don’t give to get, from your heart you give to give - as a result life rewards you, and you receive more.
Written by Sylvia Marina
Speaker | Author | Mentor